Sweet Surprises

Laura’s Take: One thing that Kris does that I absolutely adore is he’ll leave me an occasional “I love you” note under one of my wind shield wipers. It’s such a pleasant surprise that sometimes I like to return the favor. It’s a cute memento that reminds a person how much you care about them. Notes under wind shield wipers aren’t the only way to leave or significant other a sweet surprise…. Here’s a few other ideas…

Ideas for Your Man:

• If he packs a lunch for work, bake him something sweet and hide it in his lunch box. When his lunch break comes around, both him and his sweet tooth will thank you. As they say, a way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.
• Find or print a cute wallet sized picture of the two of you and put it in his wallet when he’s not looking. Next time he opens that wallet, he won’t be able to close it. Oh, and make sure it’s a picture where both of you look great, men are sensitive about their image as well, you know.
• Buy some heart shaped Post It notes, and write something loving on about 20 of them. Think about some of the places your man always goes to, whether it’s the box of Cheez-Its or the remote control. Then just have fun and start stickin’!
• Got a Grocery list? Next time you’re writing up this weekly list, add something a little out of the ordinary. Whether you want to add something cute or sexy, he’s sure to take a second look! It’s just one way to make Grocery shopping a little more enjoyable.
• Snatch his cell phone when he’s not looking. In the category called tools, you should find a schedule organizer. Type in a cute little message and set it for a time he’ll have his phone on him. He’ll be pleasantly surprised by all your clever tactics.

Kris’ Take:  I think this is a very nice and positive thing to do to keep things moving in a marriage.  Many men and women feel left behind or left out of the life of their spouse.  I think that must be one of the loneliest feelings, and something as simple as a note can really fix that problem.  Nothing is better than putting in 4 hours of an 8 hour day and finding a little note from your wife in your lunch that makes you feel like she is thinking about you right at that moment.  It’s very important to keep a relationship moving forward; it doesn’t just stop at marriage.

Ideas For Your Woman

• Do some of the house chores.  I know first hand that Laura loves when I wash and dry the dishes with her.  It makes time go by and allows the two of you to have a nice talk.
• Bring home flowers when you know her day was rough.  It shows her that you’re sympathetic and understand that she can have hard days too.
• Make her dinner!  Laura and I are very old fashioned in the way we handle things.  I want to go to work and take care of her and she wants to keep the house held together.  But never would I be such a jerk to assume that only I worked today and I deserve MY dinner right NOW.  No marriage should ever assume that one person is working and the other is vacationing, because we all know first hand how annoying, mundane, thankless, and tiring cleaning a house and keeping up with kids can be.  So when you can take some of the weight off of her shoulders and make the day a bit nicer, you should.  She’s your princess for you to take care of, you asked her to marry you for a reason, and she said yes for a reason.  Show her why.
• Foot Massages!  Okay, so you’re not a foot enthusiast, neither am I.  But for some reason, I don’t mind giving Laura a foot massage.  Any other person, I shiver.  But this is a nice way to relax your spouse and in a way it suggests that you know they’ve been on their feet all day and you appreciate the help they offer.
• Back Massages.  These are fun when you’re getting them.  One thing I do notice is that people LOVE getting back massages, but they don’t care to give them.  Probably because hands can get tired so quickly.  But even a light massage is nice here and there.  So if you see your princess leaning on a counter rubbing the back of her neck, sit her down and do it for her.
• Not to copy, but women like notes too.  I write Laura notes everyone once in a while, and one time I mailed her one from work.  She loved that!  I guess its because people are so used to that “I love you” text message or e-mail (Which these aren’t bad, if you don’t already do this, give it a try!  You might be surprised with the response!).  But women love mail.
• Arrange a surprise date.  This is also referred to as kidnapping her for a day.  Take a day off from work.  Wake her up with breakfast, and take her out, but she isn’t allowed to know any of the plans.  Be very cautious with telling people that you will be or did kidnap your wife.