What do men find attractive?

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Kris’ Take:  I cannot speak for all men because tastes will nearly always differ, but I will speak what I know.  Firstly when it comes to clothing I prefer classy and conservative.  One of the main things that I like about Laura is that she never feels like she needs to show everything off to get attention.  I can’t believe that some parents let their kids out the door looking like they do.  When I go to the mall I have to make sure I didn’t end up in the red light district because I’m not sure if all the 15 and 16 year old girls are trying to shop or work the corner.  So to put it bluntly, respectful men that will be good for you in a relationship don’t want to see your goodys.

If a guy approaches you because of what you’re wearing is that the kind of guy that you trust until death do you part?  If so then you must plan on having a very short life because I give him about ten minutes before he’s looking the next short skirt up and down.

Besides clothing I love a sense of humor but intelligent and moral at the same time.  Laura and I have very corresponding personalities.  We make jokes together but at the same time her and I can have an intelligent conversation and she has all of the same morals that I do.  These are probably the most important characteristics that I can stress in a relationship.  If your personalities don’t fit, then you’ve got an empty relationship.  You need to be able to have a conversation or else all there will be is generic talk and no attention.  Laura fits me like a glove, she has everything I could ever want or need.  She has a wonderful sense of humor, she shares the same morals and beliefs, she’s intelligent, she’s beautiful, she dresses with class and taste, and she’s trustworthy.  That’s what I find attractive.

Gift Ideas for Men

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Kris’ Take:  Women always want to know what to get their man for holidays, I’ll do the best I can to provide some general ideas that may help you out.  You’ll have to gauge your guy to make sure these fit with his personality or career, but I think this will be a decent start:

• A nice watch (Laura got me a very nice one and I loved it!)
• A new briefcase (This is better for businessmen so get this if it’s needed, or if it’s better than the one he has.)
• A nice suit (Men like looking good for their women, so if you had him a suit that you say is hot, he’ll probably like it.)
• A better phone (These have become integral to businessmen)
• New shoes (I wear my shoes until the sole is gone, Laura doesn’t let this happen to me anymore.)
• A nice wallet (Nothing worse then a businessman busting out his gray nylon wallet with blue trim.)
• Cologne (This is kind of a last ditch effort unless the guy doesn’t shut up about it.  Laura had to skew the truth for a whole year about a cologne I liked.  She kept telling me she didn’t like it so I wouldn’t buy it so she could get it for me.  She actually loves the stuff.)
• Something from one of his hobbies or (I hate using this idea, but it’s safer if you’re unsure of what to get) a gift certificate to one of his favorite hobby stores.
• If he needs or uses tools a lot you can speak with a home improvements store employee about what tools are nice for his trade.  They can make recommendations on things that can make the job easier, or just upgrade what he already has. (Be sure to keep receipts just in case.)
• Things for his vehicle like satellite radio, GPS, or various decorations to enhance the look.  (Men typically like their vehicles a lot, and getting things to enhance the ride or make it look nicer are usually a pretty safe bet.)
• A sentimental gift like a picture frame with your names engraved (As long as your man doesn’t smash beer cans on his head.  Laura did this for me and it sits upon my desk, I really like it.)
• A vacation. (A little more pricey but fun for you both!)

Those are my ideas for now.  As I think of more I’ll be sure to add them, and if you have any ideas or ones that really worked out well leave them as a comment and I’ll add those too.

Men want to be treated like men pt.2

Kris:  Due to the popularity of my last post “Men want to be treated like men” I’m posting this follow up.  My first one started out as more of a light hearted funny post, but there have been so many search engine clicks from women searching for the phrase “how to treat men” that I realize there is a real need for this information.  Women have the same problem men do, we don’t know what each other is thinking.  Now, while what I write won’t apply to nearly all men, I’ll try to be as thorough as possible.

I was completely serious when I said that I like to feel like the man.  I like doing the guy things, and in our current state of sociology this has become considered chauvinistic.  It is now a bad thing to designate certain activities as guyish and girlish, because everyone can do what everyone else does.  I admit that I am sensitive, and this is considered a feminine quality.  I’m okay with that because it allows my fiancee and I to connect on a better level.  This doesn’t mean I’m not a man, just as a woman with masculine qualities would still be a woman.

What do men truly want?  I like to feel like the man, I also like to feel attractive.  Any man who denies this is lieing.  If you want to test this, just tell your man today “Wow, you look really good.”  See if he doesn’t smile a little bit.  Men love feeling attractive.  It’s okay to puff a guys manliness up to make him feel special.  If he’s strong hug his arm and comment on how he’s your big strong man.  If he’s really intelligent, listen to what he has to say with intent, if he impresses you with a new insight then compliment him.  We try all the time to impress you and win you over with our best features (Not all guys do this, some think when they get the catch they can let go.).

We like thoughtful little somethings.  Like if you’re out and you see something small that you think your guy might like, pick it up.  Now this isn’t something you do often, but when you feel it might be an appreciated gesture, try it.  Notes!!!  I love notes, when Laura leaves me cute little handwritten notes telling me that she loves me, I adore them.  I think I’ve kept every single one of them.  Some guys really try to push the manly button and think this is mushy crap that is useless.  If your guy is that guy, this probably won’t work.

 I hate to leave anyone with the feeling of incomplete information, but what this all comes down to is knowing what type of guy you have.  Then from there you can truly know what he wants.

Date Tip: What to Wear

Laura’s Take: First Impressions mean everything and how you present yourself can greatly impact your life in many ways. Whether you don’t get the job because you came in wearing flip flops and a Hawaiian Shirt, or you can’t get a date because the suspenders and bow tie you’re wearing are out of date, make sure that when you’re getting dressed, you’re proud of the image you’re showing. So Girls, if you don’t want people to assume you’re a slut, don’t dress like one! And Guys, if you don’t want girls to think you live in your parents’ basement, watching Star Trek reruns and playing video games all day, then burn every nerdy t-shirt you own!

Kris’ Take: Ouch! I don’t think I’d put it that harshly… okay, yeah I probably would. The truth is gentleman, the days of the t-shirt and jeans are over. To really snag your catch you’ve got to dress to kill. I believe ZZ Top said it best “Every girl’s crazy for a sharp dressed man.” Girls love walking around with their man and thinking “Wow, he’s so much better dressed/looking than all of these other guys.” Rather than “Wow, he looks just like every other guy.” And Ladies, I agree with Laura. If you’re going to put yourself out there like you’re carrying around a tray of h’orderves, you’ll eventually get that attention. And I don’t think most of you girls really want men grabbing on you like you’re an XBox controller. So Ladies, if you want to be respected, keep the puppies in the pouch and the skirt from the sky, and I think that you’ll make it through a date just fine.

Men want to be treated like men

Kris’ Take:  Seriously, men want to be treated like men.  We’re tough, we’re stong, we’re like bears.  We like BBQ food and fast cars.  We like to hold the remote control.  So every once in a while can you let us open up your drink, or can you pretend to be scared of the ant so that we can play our role and save the day?  I don’t ask for much, I just don’t want all of this manliness to go to waste.