Date Idea: Roller Skating

Kris’ Take:  If you’re not sure of what to do one night you can always take a trip back to when the two of you were younger.  For me, this brings me back to about 8th grade.  Roler skating is cheap, fun, and a great way to spend your night out.  It allows for the two of you to get into a very vulnerable and funny position.  The truth is, no matter how good at skating you once were, if you haven’t been on skates in years, you’re bound to look funny at least the first hour.  This happend to me when Laura and I had gone out.  I didn’t fall… but I came very, very close.

Of course this isn’t the romantic dinner and sunset followed by the long walk on a beach, but it’s a really fun and innocent way to spend your night out, have some laughs, and just enjoy each others company.  You can hold hands, talk, and just have a good time.  And nothing strips your dignity more than doing the chicken dance on roller blades.

The Meaning of Love

1 Corinthians Chapter 13 

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

Writing Love Notes

Kris’ Take: I’m not going to give you a poem to write, but I will give some tips because Laura and I leave little notes for one another often. Depending on the reason, you may or may not want to write a long, enthralled note. A lot of the information depends on how your significant other feels about reading. I like when Laura writes me long detailed notes but other people might prefer less reading. What ever you do, make sure you express your emotion, and be creative. A note that says I love you is nice and it might be enough to put a smile on their face (It should be at least!). You might want to elaborate how much you love them:

Serious: I love you with all of my heart (I know, a little cliche, but I used it to get my idea across.)

Poetic: I love you from the depths of the ocean to the stars in the sky.

Funny / Creative / Awkward: I love you with the passion of a thousand suns.

No matter what you write, notes are great because they always say something else; that you were thinking about them. That’s probably the most meaningful part of the whole thing. It’s very warming when I find a note that Laura hid because I don’t expect it, and it tells me that she’s thinking of me. I know that Laura thinks of me, but having something like that happen just makes you feel good, and there’s no denying it.

Laura’s Take: I completely agree with you, notes are a great way to let the person you love, know how you feel about them. Some people have a hard time telling someone how they feel in person, and writing notes is a helpful alternative which still gets the point across.

I love hiding notes for Kris. The only problem is I’m very impatient and I want him to find the notes right away so I can hear his response. It’s so much fun finding a cute note from your significant other, especially when you’re not expecting it. When he finally finds it, it puts an instant smile on his face!

My favorite note Kris ever wrote me was from about a year ago. I guess he would put under the “Funny/Creative/Awkward” category. It’s kind of hard to describe, but I’ll do my best. He described things that really love other things, but the love he has for me is even greater than that. Ok, example: “I love you more than Pop-eye loves Spinach.” It was so cute and clever that I keep it in a little box of all the cute stuff he’s given me.

What do men find attractive?

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“I Love You” Ideas

Kris’ Take:  I cannot speak for all men because tastes will nearly always differ, but I will speak what I know.  Firstly when it comes to clothing I prefer classy and conservative.  One of the main things that I like about Laura is that she never feels like she needs to show everything off to get attention.  I can’t believe that some parents let their kids out the door looking like they do.  When I go to the mall I have to make sure I didn’t end up in the red light district because I’m not sure if all the 15 and 16 year old girls are trying to shop or work the corner.  So to put it bluntly, respectful men that will be good for you in a relationship don’t want to see your goodys.

If a guy approaches you because of what you’re wearing is that the kind of guy that you trust until death do you part?  If so then you must plan on having a very short life because I give him about ten minutes before he’s looking the next short skirt up and down.

Besides clothing I love a sense of humor but intelligent and moral at the same time.  Laura and I have very corresponding personalities.  We make jokes together but at the same time her and I can have an intelligent conversation and she has all of the same morals that I do.  These are probably the most important characteristics that I can stress in a relationship.  If your personalities don’t fit, then you’ve got an empty relationship.  You need to be able to have a conversation or else all there will be is generic talk and no attention.  Laura fits me like a glove, she has everything I could ever want or need.  She has a wonderful sense of humor, she shares the same morals and beliefs, she’s intelligent, she’s beautiful, she dresses with class and taste, and she’s trustworthy.  That’s what I find attractive.

Men want to be treated like men pt.2

Kris:  Due to the popularity of my last post “Men want to be treated like men” I’m posting this follow up.  My first one started out as more of a light hearted funny post, but there have been so many search engine clicks from women searching for the phrase “how to treat men” that I realize there is a real need for this information.  Women have the same problem men do, we don’t know what each other is thinking.  Now, while what I write won’t apply to nearly all men, I’ll try to be as thorough as possible.

I was completely serious when I said that I like to feel like the man.  I like doing the guy things, and in our current state of sociology this has become considered chauvinistic.  It is now a bad thing to designate certain activities as guyish and girlish, because everyone can do what everyone else does.  I admit that I am sensitive, and this is considered a feminine quality.  I’m okay with that because it allows my fiancee and I to connect on a better level.  This doesn’t mean I’m not a man, just as a woman with masculine qualities would still be a woman.

What do men truly want?  I like to feel like the man, I also like to feel attractive.  Any man who denies this is lieing.  If you want to test this, just tell your man today “Wow, you look really good.”  See if he doesn’t smile a little bit.  Men love feeling attractive.  It’s okay to puff a guys manliness up to make him feel special.  If he’s strong hug his arm and comment on how he’s your big strong man.  If he’s really intelligent, listen to what he has to say with intent, if he impresses you with a new insight then compliment him.  We try all the time to impress you and win you over with our best features (Not all guys do this, some think when they get the catch they can let go.).

We like thoughtful little somethings.  Like if you’re out and you see something small that you think your guy might like, pick it up.  Now this isn’t something you do often, but when you feel it might be an appreciated gesture, try it.  Notes!!!  I love notes, when Laura leaves me cute little handwritten notes telling me that she loves me, I adore them.  I think I’ve kept every single one of them.  Some guys really try to push the manly button and think this is mushy crap that is useless.  If your guy is that guy, this probably won’t work.

 I hate to leave anyone with the feeling of incomplete information, but what this all comes down to is knowing what type of guy you have.  Then from there you can truly know what he wants.