Kris: Due to the popularity of my last post “Men want to be treated like men” I’m posting this follow up. My first one started out as more of a light hearted funny post, but there have been so many search engine clicks from women searching for the phrase “how to treat men” that I realize there is a real need for this information. Women have the same problem men do, we don’t know what each other is thinking. Now, while what I write won’t apply to nearly all men, I’ll try to be as thorough as possible.
I was completely serious when I said that I like to feel like the man. I like doing the guy things, and in our current state of sociology this has become considered chauvinistic. It is now a bad thing to designate certain activities as guyish and girlish, because everyone can do what everyone else does. I admit that I am sensitive, and this is considered a feminine quality. I’m okay with that because it allows my fiancee and I to connect on a better level. This doesn’t mean I’m not a man, just as a woman with masculine qualities would still be a woman.
What do men truly want? I like to feel like the man, I also like to feel attractive. Any man who denies this is lieing. If you want to test this, just tell your man today “Wow, you look really good.” See if he doesn’t smile a little bit. Men love feeling attractive. It’s okay to puff a guys manliness up to make him feel special. If he’s strong hug his arm and comment on how he’s your big strong man. If he’s really intelligent, listen to what he has to say with intent, if he impresses you with a new insight then compliment him. We try all the time to impress you and win you over with our best features (Not all guys do this, some think when they get the catch they can let go.).
We like thoughtful little somethings. Like if you’re out and you see something small that you think your guy might like, pick it up. Now this isn’t something you do often, but when you feel it might be an appreciated gesture, try it. Notes!!! I love notes, when Laura leaves me cute little handwritten notes telling me that she loves me, I adore them. I think I’ve kept every single one of them. Some guys really try to push the manly button and think this is mushy crap that is useless. If your guy is that guy, this probably won’t work.
I hate to leave anyone with the feeling of incomplete information, but what this all comes down to is knowing what type of guy you have. Then from there you can truly know what he wants.