Laura’s Take: I agree with you Plain Jane, it’s like I said in the very first sentence of this post, sometimes you just have that gut feeling that something is going on. So whether your spouse is or isn’t cheating, going through some of these steps can at least give you some reassurance and peace of mind.
Hey I really liked this List….The one thing I would add is a “Lie Detector Test” before making any marriage commitment….It may sound a bit Overkill, but cheating on a spouse isn’t exactly something one can recover from…So maybe it’s worth it in the long run……I mean how many women would date and marry a guy just for his Money, wouldn’t it be nice to know that’s NOT ALL their thinking about…And guys get bored, after they get what they want and “A few” start looking for other ways to get what they want…..I really think a Polygraph would confront the problem at the very beginning…..Great Topic by the way, it appears to be happening ALL the time now!!
Laura’s Take: Hey Mona Lisa! I agree with you that a polygraph would certainly help a woman skim through these kinds of men, however it isn’t something that I necessarily agree with. A good marriage is built on trust and communication. Having your future spouse take a polygraph test is showing that you don’t feel either of those are strong enough. And in that case, you shouldn’t be getting married to begin with.
This is a great summary list of first clues. We’ve got several more on the How to Catch a Cheater wiki at http://catchingcheaters.wetpaint.com
Because it’s a wiki, anyone can post feedback, can add information, or create a page telling their story.
We’d love feedback and participation by people who unfortunately have found themselves a victim of a cheater! We can learn from others’ experiences.
I disagree with you. You mentioned you need to have Trust and Communication. Many people who fall madly in love feel they can Trust that someone special. After all they can Talk about anything and at any time!
The fact is more often than not, one or the other will cheat during their marriage. A polygraph test would reveal what is or isn’t, and if the communication and trust that a couple has is so great, they would understand that sometimes mistakes happen and sometimes people do in fact lie…
I would say, Love is the Greatest Gift on earth, but you may have it while your partner doesn’t. Wouldn’t it be wise to find out sooner than later?
Kris’ Take: Hello TruthTold, and welcome to the blog! Wouldn’t you agree that a polygraph test would only reveal (when it’s correct of course) what has already happend? So if cheating hasn’t occurred than a polygraph test would be superfluous. There is no substitute for truth and polygraph test more or less says to the person “I think you’re lying.” Which in my opinion would be considered bearing false witness.
The sad part to all of this, is the fact people do indeed Lie.
I’m not saying to have a Polygraph test done to upset anyone, however some people as you would say do bear false witness. For All have sinned and fallen short of the Glory of God. In todays world, where 1 out of 4 young women are being confirmed with STD, I don’t think it’s a stretch. Just in todays News, it mentioned how many married couples are Cheating on one another, the thing about a Cheater is that they don’t want to be caught…..If there was another way for the one bearing False Witness to come forward with the truth, then it’d be a different story. But they Don’t! Some times, History repeats itself and that’s not always for the good.
With ALL of that said, would you not agree that you probly know of at least one or two people who would conceal the Truth!
When I have read the Topic on your Blog about “Work Wives and Work Husbands” I think it speaks for itself….
Kris’ Take: I completely agree with you about how common it is. And I also agree that it’s unfortunate but their is a fallacy in believeing how good this technology truly is. Polygraphs are a fun concept, but they aren’t where they need to be. I suppose we agree to disagree. I know that I would never subject Laura to a polygraph because I feel that that is synonymous with me calling her a liar to her face. And if she’s telling the truth then that makes me a liar and Prov 19:9
9 A false witness will not go unpunished, And he who tells lies will perish.
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Well this convo looks like of interesting. While i think that its good to know when someone is cheating on you .. at the same time, i think that you lose the trust when you start being paranoid and looking through someones stuff.
Even if the guy ISNT cheating, by snooping through his stuff, you could assume the worst.
I think that if you want to know if your guy is cheating, then just straight out ask him. If you are a girl who is in touch with her intution, then you should pretty know.
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